Well, the husband is moving out. I love him, and he loves me. But we’re giving in to the inevitable. There was no shouting or screaming or hysterics. Nothing so dramatic. Just some quiet discussion and teary-eyed hugs. This has been a long time coming and I think we’ll be much better off as friends than spouses. It isn’t anyone’s fault that our marriage has leaned too much towards the “for worse” end of the spectrum and hasn’t seen enough of that “for better” business. Life threw us too many curveballs. And even if it hadn’t, I don’t know that we could have made it work. Our differences are just too great.
This is all going to hit the little man the hardest, and that is what hurts the most. I wanted so much to give him a stable family. I wanted him to have a strong father figure and siblings to grow up with. But that’s all fiction. It’s not the story of our lives. Thankfully the husband won’t be out of the picture entirely. He is a good, kind man and will remain a close friend…to the little man and I both.
In the mean time we have a thousand and one mundane details to take care of here. He’ll have to figure out when he’s going to move and where. And our CDs and books and DVDs are all jumbled together. And all the good kitchen gear is his. And now I need a car, again. Life is messy and difficult but we’ll get it sorted. Despite my apprehension and fear, I feel relief. Like I can finally stop holding my breath and let the freefall begin.
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What a year for you all. My heart is with you.
oh my. many virtual hugs to you. it will be tough but it sounds like you’re doing it the right way. the very best of luck with all your new lives.
My heart is with you as well. It must be the season for this sort of thing. I know you’ll be able to get through it all.
my thoughts are with you. it has to get worse before it gets better.
:just breathe:
and remember to smile :)
Thanks all :-)
wow. so, so sorry to hear that.
been a lurker for a while. just wanted to send you a hug.
Wow, I’m so sorry you are going through this, but I’m glad you are doing this amicably. Believe me, I’ve gone through it the other way, and there’s nothing worse. I’m sure this will all work out for the best.
You’re strong, and you’re sensible. It’s gonna sting for a while, but you’ll overcome this. You’ve got some fight in you. :) Take care.
I’m so sorry to hear to hear that you have even more to go through. You seem to be a very strong person. I wish all the best for you and your son.
Again, thanks yawl. And Eve - I swear, this is the least ugly break-up in the history of break-ups. As unfun as it is, everything is going to be a-ok.
Sad to hear about this - as if you haven’t been through enough in the last year. Good luck and hugs for the upcoming journey. You are an amazing woman, Sharyn - it takes real guts to take hold of an unsatisfactory situation and make it somethign better, esp. when there are children involved. The little man is so lucky to have you as his mum. Don’t forget to be kind to yourself along the way.
I’m late in reading this, but I am so sorry. At the same time, I think you and the little man are going to be okay. More than okay. Hugs.
this is how behind on blogs i am. i’m just reading this for the first time, right now. and NOW i get why you’re looking at a car. we really need to go for lunch or something very soon — out of the office.
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